I'm actually quite lucky in this regard. Once the kids are in bed my wife will usually go and catch up with her soaps or whatever giving me a good couple of hours to play, then once she's done I'll usually put it off and do something with her for a bit then bed. Its a very give and take sort of arrangement that works for us so its cool. The exception to this being Tuesdays, she generally doesn't expect to see me since she knows I like to get nightfalls and stuff out the way lol