I'm in a similar boat. Wife and 2 kids. 1 year old and 3 year old. Work fulltime. Destiny time is after the kids are sleeping which is usually around 8pm EST. Tuesday nights are designated Nightfall and Heroic nights. Wednesday to Monday are Raid nights. I try and do all activities before reset. Sometimes it happens other times it doesn't. Looking for a PS4 clan with a similar situation and schedule. Would like to have a solid Raid team on a weekly basis to ensure I can get both raids done over 3 characters. I've learned to function with 5 hours of sleep.