originally posted in:Sapphire
The internet is a big, gaping void...and nature abhors a vacuum. Ever since its creation, people have been thinking of new ways to make themselves heard throughout cyberspace - starting with listservs and BBS, right through to the desktop publishing revolution of the early 2000s, and seeing its truest expression in today's share-everything culture, where Facebook and Twitter make it easy for your grandmother to share photos of the cookies she baked you at Christmas in a way it never has been before. Face it: as a species, we love to talk. We, almost exclusively amongst our animal brethren, have developed a complex written and spoken communication system that evolved for the sole purpose of making ourselves heard.
So we love to talk. But more importantly, we love to be heard. If we didn't, we wouldn't speak. But because all of us learned as little kids (or at least, the well-bred ones did) that it was better to be seen and not heard, we carry with us - even as adults! - a social guilt complex that makes us simultaneously [i]want[/i] attention, but think it's vulgar when others actually [i]seek[/i] it. Those nasty attention whores, right? Those annoying people with their loud mouths, constantly saying things just to be heard, doing things just to be seen, forever being [i]noticed[/i]. How dare they, when we've spent our lives being told by our well-meaning parents that only the naughty kids ever speak out?
Here's my theory: it takes more than a little self-awareness (and a [i]lot[/i] of rejecting society's conditioning) to get to a certain level of social evolution that allows us to accept that actually, there's nothing wrong with speaking to be heard. Because hell, don't we all do it? Don't we try to make our friends laugh? Don't we try to impress good-looking people at parties? Don't we all get that little thrill when someone tells us we're clever, or witty, or interesting, or fun? Of course we do. But the difference between the many and the few is that while most people spend their lives believing that they should act modest in the face of attention, some of us have realised that, hey, what the hell, attention is [i]awesome[/i], and there's nothing wrong with seeking it.
Here's my challenge to you, fellow denizens of the internet: ask yourselves, what's so bad about being noticed? What's so bad about [i]wanting[/i] to be noticed? Really and truly, isn't that desire for adulation part of what drives us to do better, to [i]be[/i] better? Why do we fight it, when we could embrace it? Why do we act like we don't deserve to be heard, when really, being heard is the only reason to speak?
I speak to be heard. I speak to be [i]noticed[/i]. Try it, and experience the truly liberating feeling of realising that you have a voice, and you can use it to reach out to the world.
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Edited by Yonko: 4/20/2017 2:43:21 AMThe cancer is now gone for good -- good riddance.
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I resurrect thee!
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this was a good first impression of sapphire
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Wow.. This is the first post I looked at coming here from Off-topic. Wow. I might stick around awhile.
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Necrobump
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2deep4me. [spoiler]Bop it twist it necro bump it![/spoiler]
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Edited by Metni: 11/6/2015 1:19:33 AMNecrobumping this since it's brilliant.
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Same here, but my voice falls on deaf ears, I'm afraid.
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EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEERECTION
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CAN YOU GUYS HEAR ME?! PLEASE RESPOND!
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Don't mute LLC
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Edited by RighteousTyrant: 1/14/2013 6:52:40 PM
Started a new topic: We can mute users, but why not groups?(40 Replies))
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Why would someone bump this? :P
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bumping
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Tell that to the Dragonborn.
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Speak only if it will improve the silence.
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Teehee
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Edited by Myth of Tyrant: 1/15/2013 3:41:47 AM*snip*
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FACT: Bears eat beets.
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Lawl, can I post without even being in the group?
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I feel offended as the OP speaks of my grandma who hasn't made me cookies in ever and has been dead for the past 5 years
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There's nothing wrong with wanting to be noticed. But I seem to be trying to push down my desire for praise and to be noticed, and I don't know why. As mount once said to describe me, "Don't pay attention to me, but pay attention to me."
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Edited by GrandmasterNinja: 1/14/2013 5:36:38 PMTalking for the sake of being heard is about the dumbest thing I've read. People get noticed in [i]many[/i] other ways then just speaking jay. When Einstien came up with general relativity, did he gain attention in the manner in which he spoke, or [i]what exactly he was talking about[/i]. That's the damn difference, if you have something important to say, say it and people will listen to you. When attention whores fish for compliments, and speak [i]nonsense[/i] for the sake of being heard, it is pathetic and [i]should[/i] be looked down upon. It is literally spam flooding our perception from important, smart, and well respected people who have something of actual value when they talk. Like students gossiping while the Calculus teacher is teaching. It is sensible when a baby literally always is trying to keep your attention because they'd die without the care of others. It IS life or death for them. But when they aren't little kids, it is literally just a childish attempt at being noticed. Now you must wonder how the hell I get noticed lol. I got noticed through my [i]actions[/i]. And by actions, I mean raising $500,000 for my school so it could have decent computers, Getting medals at my Martial Arts tournaments, getting trophies for robotics, and maxing out at the gym (do you even lift?). These acomplishments have given me A TON of attention. But I only ever bring them up when people ask or if I'm getting interviewed for a job. I'm NOT an attention whore by any means with my accomplishments, because I don't want people to be my friends JUST because of them. So please don't tell me attention whores should not be looked down upon. They want attention by doing next to nothing, they do NOTHING productive by reaching out to the world. That's the word: productive. If you aren't doing anything productive other than just gaining attention when you attempt to reach out to the world, you're wasting the calories my body has to use to percieve it.
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Edited by Doctor Jensen: 1/14/2013 6:37:01 PMA man knows how to speak. He also knows [i]when to speak.[/i] There is a time and a place for speaking and it should only be when it is appropriate. That is [i]not[/i] whenever the hell you want.
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Just because I like to speak doesn't mean I want all my thoughts out there in the open. Though I get what you're trying to say. Also long time no see Jay.