Because I've learned the only way to overcome extreme sadness and pain is to GET UP OFF MY ASS AND GO LIVE MY LIFE. I had a choice, focus on the pain and sorrow and feel sorry for myself, or accept what happened, and keep moving forward with my life. Does it make me sad when I think about it? Of course. The point is bad things happen to everyone. To think your bad situation is unique, you're a fool. People out there have faced far worse and come out on the other side. How things affect in the long term is largely up to you. How you handle those problems is 100% up to you. Focus on what you can control.