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Edited by Otthild:
4/21/2015 6:13:04 PM
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Any Advice On This?
So my roommate and previous best friend just got arrested. He trashed my house in a temper tantrum last night. He flew off the handle and just lost it. We called the cops and now he's seeing the judge, possibly getting charged with domestic violence.
My question is, what do I do? Have any of you had experience with this? I now want no contact with this dick because of all the shit he's caused. One of the problems is that he is under me at work so seeing him is kind of my job. I'm seriously at a loss for what to do. Any advice would be nice.
EDIT: I have spoken with my manager and am currently emailing HR. They're looking into the options.
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Edited by Progo: 5/8/2015 2:25:35 AMEDIT: dis is kinda old, isn't it?
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sorry, can't help, but good luck.
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Sounds like you got the problem pseudo-solved
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Probably because you -blam!-ed his friend when he thought he was in that.
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I really don't know. D:
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Just let your work know that u dont want to have any contact and sign a restriction paper saying that
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Escape the area
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Kill them all
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2 RepliesEdited by ResonantParoxysm: 4/22/2015 7:38:20 PMHey, he used to be your friend right? What were the good things about him? Sometimes you have to remember where everyone has been and not think about where they are. Surely he didn't do something so terrible that its irreversible. Why did he trash the place (also no matter how much damage he did its just a mess that can be cleaned up)? What set him off? Was it really necessary to call the cops?
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2 RepliesMind if I ask why he did it?
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2 RepliesEdited by Onion Beetle: 4/22/2015 7:35:28 PMWhat caused the situation; was it just a burst of anger out of the blue? Regardless, I reccomend you call in the troops, get some friends over sort some shit out. You already seem to have your head screwed on right by calling a lawyer anyway, you know how this shit goes down. So you should be ready to rock n roll without too much advice.
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Be professional. Do not bring up the issue at work, however HR needs to be told just in case something occurs due to it. Do not start a crusade against him as it can cause a backlash.
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Yes, Iv had plenty of this occur in my life. It's not exactly hard just troublesome. First you legally have give him his shit but if your suing for damages and he cannot pay you have the right to sell his belongings to pay to the exact amount. You have to itemize each item and get recites. Second restraining orders might need to happen depending on the severity of his behavior. Now this is tricky with the job, it might be worded for domestic or encompass your person as a whole, in case of the ladder he or yourself might be terminated or transfer unless they give you opposite shifts with ample time for him or you to vacate the premises. Restraining orders have to be renewed annually, generally only last the first time, but in any case be prepared to see him once a year. Third you may have to move. If he's loco a restraining order will not stop him. That will be out of your pocket. It sucks be crazy knows no logic.
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Edited by Raistlin657: 4/21/2015 11:16:40 PMSounds like a mess. Judging from the comments below you are talking to HR and getting a restraining order. Both great ideas. I have seen people in this same area and it sucks. Just remember to keep calm and always act professional at work. Unfortunately HR can take a while before actually doing anything. So you have to just try and hang in there. If he says or does anything at work make sure to report it immediately. Don't give him a chance to say something to them first and twist the story.
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I have been in a very similar situation and it's a tough one. I ended up choosing a stern lecture and an ultimatum as "punishment" and I didn't have the problem again. But only you know how permanent you're willing to make the situation. You have to ask yourself how much your relationship with that person means to you and if you're willing to move on from it.
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Wait, why did your roommate get arrested?
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Tell his alien mom on him His alien mom didn't raise him to act like that
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Move to Puerto Rico.
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Hehe. Someone necrobumped your Mormon thread.
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Move to Canada. [spoiler]jk I'd say...try to see him as little as you can get away with. Sorry Otty bby[/spoiler]
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4 RepliesOk - so there's a lot going on here... I'm assuming you are in the United States... 1. Face the fact that you may have to work with him. Companies typically won't do anything unless A) it happened at work B) he is convicted of a crime C) the act outside of work is so disruptive to work that it creates a hostile work environment [kind of the hardest to prove] 2. HR may say "nothing we can do". So if you are uncomfortable - suck it up. If you are truly concerned for your safety or the safety of others, bring it up again, but characterize it as "Hostile Work Environment". HR has an obligation to investigate 3. Don't tell him he needs to quit. As his immediate supervisor, that'll get you in hot water. Even if you think you can discuss like adults, don't do it. Bad idea 4. Find another job. Kind of the nuclear option - but given the likelihood that you'll have to suck it up - it is an option. Good luck
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becum teh alpha, if he wants ur positin... charge thut bastard. If he gits close kik his azz fur slef definse Dis ur land otthild, nevur be a casul
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Provide justice. He smashed your shit, he should face consequences.
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2 Repliesつ( ° ω ° ) つ otthy!!!! Comment allez-vous mademoiselle?
