Both consoles are very good regardless of what you hear from any source. They both have their upsides and downsides. I personally prefer the PS4 because I like the Playstation exclusives better, and I also like the controller better than the XB1 controller. The difference in graphics is negligible although they are usually slightly better on the PS4. XBL is probably a bit more stable than PSN, although I think that PSN being down a lot is an overstatement. I think the interwebs blows that totally out of proportion like everything else. PS+ has generally been a better deal than XBs games for gold, but XBL seems to be catching up in this sense. A few other things to consider are that Microsoft just announced limited backwards compatibility with 360 games. You already play on 360, so the transition will be easier. Also, your Destiny profile will only carry over in the same console family. With all of that said, I would recommend the XB1 for you. P.S. Congrats on becoming a dad...it's the best feeling you'll ever experience. Good luck!