So you are saying that it isn't ok to be an asshole, but if one group is treated like shit, all groups should be treated like shit. If you want to talk about living in reality, there are most definitely double standards that exist. If the insults had been racist in nature, I bet that you wouldn't be so eager to say that it is no big deal. Racism is treated more harshly than sexism is because reasons. If you really feel that you shouldn't treat anybody like shit, how about you be the change that you want to see and stop defending or at the very least justifying the bad behavior of assholes?