Actually this will clarify. People seem to think love us a driver of all sorts of problems. Love is often a word attached to a connection that is based on security and neediness by one party. That is not love. Ye are talking about people that are so lacking in self identity they cling to another in such a strong unflinching way its destructive. That is obsessive security driven individuals and has nothing to do with love in most cases. Love is free by both people in a relationship or it is corrupted.