Wow. You got that from that post. Well using the same logic you used let me tell you what I got from your reply. You hold deep feelings for a guy named Tom that you work with. Although he often looks in your direction you aren't really sure if he actually sees you. He's the kind of guy you could settle down with but your not sure if he's ready. You know your ready for the big commitment but you don't want a project. You see the way he acts around other guys in the office. Confident. Strong. Vibrant. All things that make your heart sing. You also see his immaturity and flirtatious nature. You see the way he is with Larry the janitor. The fleeting touches of larrys mop during those Monday morning flirt sessions at the copier. And you have heard the rumours. John from accounting. Seth from human resources. Gordon who used to work at complaints God rest his soul. Well at least Tom gave Gordon one hell of a retirement gift !!! Something that always holds you back. But on some level you know that you can be the guy to change him. You can be that guy that changes his wanton meandering and finally give him someone to settle down for. You tell yourself now is the time to stop simply staring and take a chance you crazy dreamer. Now is the time to make the leap of faith and who knows what "Tom - orrow " will bring.