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4/8/2016 6:22:13 PM
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I don't think it's wrong to like blonde hair, full lips, or freckles. But it isn't right to say I find you attractive, But you are black, so I don't want to be romantic.
Thats -blam!-ed up no matter how you cut it.
I get that dating your race is like first nature
But denying someone because of their race just is not shouldn't be 1st nature. Date who you want of course, doesn't make it any less -blam!-ed up though.
The person that may make you the happiest may not come in the same wrapping a bow you imagined.
I get not dating because of health issues, wealth or status, but cause I'm brown you aren't even gonna try to know me as a person? pff.
Ah well, we are allowed to have our opinions.
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Well... I personally wouldn't want to date someone who grew up in a completely different culture, who will probably have very different opinions on things than I will. ( •-•)
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I can understand that. But you usually have things in common in the first place as to why u are dating anyway
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Yes, however having things in common would help, but cultural differences can be a biggy ( •-•)
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Lol how many people have you dated outside ur culture..
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2 was enough
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Some people just don't let culture shock get in the way of finding someone who completes them. We get it, culture difference is not something you prefer to have. Your truth is not universal You don't need to keep trying to prove w/e u are trying to say
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Or maybe they just don't prefer them. It's not racist or wrong to not be turned on by another race. Indian and native Hawaiian women do not turn me on. Am I racist? No.
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[quote]Or maybe they just don't prefer them. It's not racist or wrong to not be turned on by another race. Indian and native Hawaiian women do not turn me on. Am I racist? No.[/quote] You are racist
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I said that in previous comments -_-
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Eh I don't really see it as wrong, I just see it as another preference. As I stated I'd never date Hispanic men because of my personal experience. That doesn't make me racist & honestly who I date or choose not to date shouldn't matter to anyone. There's 7+ billion people in this world, a few people not liking you doesn't really matter. I guess he shouldn't have said it to you, if he didn't want to date you he could've left it at that, but people like who they like & that shouldn't offend you or hurt you. Different races have different customs, it's much easier to date someone that shares a similar culture as you because things will just be natural. Not everyone wants to date someone that doesn't share that same cultural background. I honestly feel bad for my husband because he's not use to Mexican culture & he clashes a lot with my family. Just because he can deal with it, doesn't mean everyone should or wants to.
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Your view doesn't change the fact it's -blam!-ed up and promotes racism
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Considering my up bringing, where it is "I'm not black enough" but "i'll never be white" yeah I'm going to take somethings personal. If I were to interact with all 7 billion people, that would make sense. But I can't so the interactions that I do experience are 100% relative to my life. Date who you like. If who you like happens not be be black people, cruddy, but do you. I get if you have dated some one of a certain race, have a bad experience, and so you do not go out your way to date another. I stray away from people who remind me of an abusive ex. I'm not saying don't date your own race, I'm just saying life has a lot to offer, don't deny yourself experiences because you assume you know someone bc of the culture they may or may not carry.
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But that's the beauty of life, everyone has a different way of looking at it. If this is how you feel then great, however, not everyone needs to think or live like you do. They don't want to date a, Hispanic, Caucasian, Asian, African American, etc, then they don't need to. Everyone should be allowed to live how they'd like (as long as they aren't harming (& no I don't mean feelings, more like killing or threatening others lives) people or breaking laws) & if others get upset by it then they need to grow up. Like I said I'm sure he didn't mean harm by what he said, for all we know he could've had a bad experience with black women & you're choosing to judge without knowing. Like usual we have different opinions, I respect your opinion, however don't be one of those people (like someone in this thread) that label others that are different. There's a difference with this guy you mentioned & someone that has hate for races & that's why they don't date them. The guy you mentioned just has a preference which many (if not everyone) in this world has when it comes to dating.
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Edited by AllMightyUterus: 4/8/2016 7:37:45 PMThe guy, after he told me that, said "its the ni*****- I don't like" So. No he wasn't trying to be nice lol. I have said it's ok to have preference, and its ok to date who you like. I said everyone has their opinions. But preference can be about [i]inferioness[/i], and it could just be the way your love life goes. Either way, get to know someone first before you judge them, thats all. You don't need to think like me to be open to people you cross paths with lol. I'm only speaking on my experience, which isn't unique. I don't have any negative feeling toward you b/c of who you married.
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Well you didn't state that, you said that he said you were pretty but he doesn't date black girls. Someone preferring to date a race or not, doesn't mean they have hate for that race or other races. It's no different them someone choosing to date fat or skinny girls. We can't help who were attracted to, however, if he really said that then it's not a preference because he clearly has hated towards black women. Also you don't need to date someone to be open or get to know them so I don't really know why you keep saying that. Attraction is what you need in order to date someone, no attraction = no relationship (friendship yes, but not relationship). This isn't too hard to grasp, like I said people just think differently & do different things
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Its not something I like bringing up, and I thought saying the whole "not black enough, never gonna be white thing" was getting at my point What you are saying is common knowledge, so yes it doesn't go for any and all instances But I am speaking about [b]dating[/b] I literally had NO attraction to my current boyfriend, but it grew. Nothing is impossible. I don't think we are on the same page....... I have said I agree with you, so I am not too sure what you are still trying to say that I can't [i]grasp[/i]....................... Nor am I trying to change your mind to what I believe. Simply saying that preferences can be fueled by racism, and that is when it is not ok.
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You're stupid....
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And you are awesome.
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I'm high and being an asshole. I don't mean anything i say on here haha
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