Its not something I like bringing up, and I thought saying the whole "not black enough, never gonna be white thing" was getting at my point What you are saying is common knowledge, so yes it doesn't go for any and all instances But I am speaking about [b]dating[/b] I literally had NO attraction to my current boyfriend, but it grew. Nothing is impossible. I don't think we are on the same page....... I have said I agree with you, so I am not too sure what you are still trying to say that I can't [i]grasp[/i]....................... Nor am I trying to change your mind to what I believe. Simply saying that preferences can be fueled by racism, and that is when it is not ok.