[quote]Choice is not what matters most in a relationship, attraction is.[/quote] Again. People choose to ignore people they find attractive just because of their race. [quote]The attraction thing isn't an opinion, you can look it up.[/quote] I'm not saying attraction is an option. Choosing to ignore it or not however is. [quote]There's also more than one way to be attracted to someone, not just to their looks.[/quote] I'm aware. [quote]I'm confused how the gender thing is any different to what you've been saying. You're telling me that if I choose to not date a race, I'm racist.[/quote] Yes if you choose not to date someone simply because of their race and nothing more, that's racist. [quote]So if you choose not to date a certain gender, by your definition that would make you a sexist because you're choosing to not date someone because of their gender. That's literally the same thing.[/quote] It's not, because you can not choose what gender you find attractive. But you can choose to ignore someone simply because of their race. [quote]Due to being r@pe or almost stabbed by these races, I don't feel comfortable dating them. I get flashbacks of those things with my husband now & he's white.[/quote] That's something you should talk to a therapist about. That's obvious unhealthy mental behavior. [quote]You can tell me how wrong and racist I am, but that's not going to change the way I react due to the events that occurred to me.[/quote] Yeah, it sucks that bad things happened to you but that doesn't mean the things you think are right. [quote]I have nothing against these racist, however I cannot move on with what happened to me.[/quote] Again that's something your therapist should hear. [quote]I don't let race get in the way, what I'm saying is I don't pursue relations with these races. If I find someone I like & they happen to be this race, I would date them. They are just not what I look for when looking for a partner.[/quote] You're conflating your own personal opinion with my entire argument. Look just ask yourself this. Could you ever see someone of another race that is attractive in every way you can find someone to be attractive, but pass them up simply because of their race? Answering yes is what makes it racist and people are known to do this No one is asking you to date someone you don't find attractive. I'm saying don't deny someone who you find attractive because of their race. [quote]I don't see how that makes me racist, but than again that word gets thrown around constantly now[/quote] Oh I agree. But it only makes talking actual valid subjects harder, because most everyone is already jaded on the subject of racism.