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Edited by Draco_Mantis: 5/9/2016 1:14:46 PM
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Sexism in raids.

So I have a concern I would like to express. Both my girlfriend and I are avid Destiny players. We both love raiding and doing POE and all of it. We both love PvE and PvP. My concern comes in this, we do have a group that will do all of these things with us. But as it stands all of us have jobs and/or school. So sometimes it is difficult to get all of us together. So what my girlfriend and I do is get a team of randoms. Why is it that just because she is a woman that plays games she gets automatic passes into every group there is. Yet I have to pass some sort of test. We will even ask for groups with room for two for both of us. And as soon as they find out she is a woman they will invite her anyway and tell her to ditch me. I have even had groups hit on her while I am in the chat. She is an amazing woman and tells them to stop or we are both leaving. Most of the time we have to end up leaving because they wont stop. I have even heard a guys girl yell at him to stop or she would break up with him. Just because she is a woman she gets treated like a slut from multiple other people. Why is this a thing. When did disrespect become the common thing. Edit: Thanks for the responses guys. I also have an experience to add that I forgot to mention on here. I have one female character which is my warlock. Well while on my warlock and with my girlfriend, A random guy at the tower decided to try and add us both. And as he put it he thought he it the jackpot. Like wtf is wrong with people that is so wrong and disrespectful it isn't even funny. Edit: OK. To say for the record the reason I said sexism is the derogatory statements made because of her gender. attitudes or behavior based on traditional stereotypes of gender roles. This is the definition of sexism as taken from dictionary.com. those fall under sexism. if you are going to try and bash me for just voicing a concern, at least get your facts straight before you do. Edit: Yes i Know all woman get hit on. That's the nature of males. I am talking about the way it is being done. Plain out disrespect in the things being said. I wonder if some of these things they said to a woman if they would ever dream to ever say them in person, or better yet in front of someone else. Edit: This is just voicing a concern. Thinking out loud. Asking a question. Whatever you want to call it.

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  • I agree, it's pretty disgusting. Hopefully over time there will be more women in games and it will force an amount of civilization, whereas now it is a factor driving it the other way. Most of the female players I've known have ended up being only the thickest-skinned type, as the others have all left primarily due to this type of behavior.

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  • My only statement is that........... it's people that play games online, they will do stupid things because they have nothing better to do, I understand where your coming from, but you should have expected this from the online gaming community. At this point I suggest you and your girlfriend just play together, now with people you don't know and/or trust.

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  • I understand your point of view and completely agree with you, however all I can say is welcome to online gaming.

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  • If you were on Xbox I'd tell you too add my girlfriend and I. That crap happens to us a lot too. It's ridiculous. I'm sorry you have to deal with it too man! People suck.

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  • People are assholes. Don't get to worked up about it, just move on and have fun with the game

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  • It's not sexism, it's the internet. The internet is what the internet is. Both awesome and complete sh1t at the same time.

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    • Are the majority of these people that you encounter english? Be honest

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    • Same

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    • Come play with my girlfriend and I. We have a solid raid team. Are you on xb1?

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    • [quote] Edit: Yes i Know all woman get hit on. That's the nature of males.[/quote] Those pesky males, they just can't help it.

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    • Edited by CuddlyZebesian: 5/10/2016 7:01:03 AM
      I wouldn't call it sexism. Sexism is a belief of gender superiority. What you and your walking breathing retard bait are experiencing is a phenomenon called the "Dude Wank Factor." Its not really your gf's fault or the people hitting on her. Its derived from the idea that girls doing guy stuff means she is actually relatable unlike moat women, and therefore considered attractive. This same concept can be applied to women in military uniform, uaing a firearm, playing sports, etc. What you witness is merely an attempt, albeit terrible, to relate to someone who is psychologically foreign, since for the longest time video games were reserved for the socially challeneged male cliques you knew in high school.

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    • Wtf kind of people are you getting bro lol are you posting lfg's on tinder ?

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    • I wouldn’t take offense to it. We often invite women into our raids so we can put them down and blame them for wipes. It’s difficult with the lads because they talk back and are often skilled enough to make the blame-game a bit tedious.

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    • No sexism in my clan. You're both welcome to join.

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    • It's true, the shit people msg to my girl sometimes when we're playing makes me wish I could punch them.. Insulting type shit I'm talking about.

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    • Kids can get a little thirsty when they have too much salt.

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    • I'd say because the maturity level of many randoms on here is very low. At least from my experience. I never had this problem on halo which was the last time I had many girl gamers I gamed with on and. I would say half the times I've raided with randoms have involved some really immature and rude ass people. The other half have been good experiences. Are you using lfg or bungie.net for raid recruiting?

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    • Edited by mesuvi: 5/9/2016 11:50:21 PM
      #oppressed #firstworldproblems No one cares that a girl plays. If she's an asshole people will treat her worse. If she's nice she receives that in return. No one gives a shit.

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      • Lol they don't think these girls are sluts they are just jealous that you have a girlfriend that games that's any guy gamers dream to have a chic that play with you instead of kicking you off so you can pay attention to her smh

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        • Not really sexism just people being pricks.

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          • It's simple, find out where they live and kill them. Your girl will love you even more because you did it in the name of love.

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            • Ppl will say anything when they can hide behind their TV screen without consequence.

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            • Your problems root back to your home based on this rant.

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            • Sexism is everywhere don't play with ppl that insult you unless you like the attention

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            • I havent raided much but by all means. .anytime or anywhere I would join you. All I , or the very few i play with, care about is good communication. ..and to always remember. .ITS JUST A GAME..HAVE FUN... Please feel free to add me gt Luevanofm xbox one

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            • They're probably little kids who a thirsty for girls

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