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Look, there are two ways to respond to hate.
The first is what you're doing right now, and letting it crush you. It's clear that you care what people think about you, and that's fine. However, there are people to care about and people not to. If all these people do is give you hate - don't let it beat you down, do way 2.
Way 2 is absorbing the hate, instead of falling under it. You don't let it hurt you - you consume it so that it lets you grow as a person. You don't ignore the hate, you absorb it, and allow it to strengthen you. It has a second bonus too - it pisses off the haters when their hate doesn't upset you.
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I did #2 for about two years. Like I mentioned in the original post, I put up with all that but it's gotten to point where I just want to escape this place.
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As long as you know that in so doing, you're letting those people win. It's like wiping all of your pieces off the chess board and just leaving your king there to die.
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What are they winning? What's OP losing? There's not really a good reason to stay here.
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They're not winning as in gaining something, they're being informed and having proven that "bullies" for lack of a better term can win. It's that kind of teaching that leads to an uprise in bad people and a reduction in good people. It's the reason as well that corrupt politicians are a normality, not a stereotype.