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Edited by G33KBOSS01:
9/14/2017 4:16:10 PM
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Why Some People Don't Want to Play With a Fireteam
Hi,
I’m a D1 player who logged over 3000 hours.
I play Crucible all the time, it’s my favorite Destiny Activity. I’m decent, not great.
(I hate Rumble BTW. Ironic, I know. I actually live for being a team player)
I did all the Raids, a lot. (I didn’t get Rise of Iron)
I was in a very successful Clan in D1(Knights of the Phoenix)
I have a lot friends on my friendlist.
So why do I, and other people, prefer to play solo 90% of the time?
There are several reasons, and I will try to be as concise as possible.
I HAVE LIMITED TIME TO PLAY:
When I get home, if I have time, I just want to jump into whatever activity
I feel like playing. I don’t want to see who is online, what activity they are doing, jump into their party,
ask them if they want to do what I want to do, wait in orbit, wait for two other people to join, or respond
to my messages, and THEN deal with the apology messages of, sorry already full etc etc.
I HAVE EMOTIONAL ANGST ABOUT THESE SOCIAL INTERACTIONS:
When I ask for friends to join me who are engaged in another activity I feel like I am bothering them.
Whether this is true or not, this is how it makes me feel, and I would rather not deal with it.
I DON’T ALWAYS FEEL LIKE TALKING:
Often times in these groups people are chatting away about their personal life, and it can be
overwhelming to me. I DO enjoy talking about the game, like callouts in PvP, but usually the
constant conversation about day-to-day life stresses me out and takes me out of the experience
I am trying to enjoy. (I hate CO-OP in story modes, because I can’t focus on the experience AT ALL)
This probably sounds funny to some people, but I bet for A LOT of solo players this is one of their
main reasons for preferring the Lone-Wolf.
THE STOP-START EXPERIENCE WITH GROUPS IS GRATING:
Play a match. One person leaves. 5 Minutes in Orbit till someone else can join. Play a match,
two people leave. Find replacements. Another 5 minutes. This tends to stress me out a lot.
I don’t know if I am coming off as a whiny wuss, but I wanted to shed some light on
why a lot of Guardians might prefer to play Solo. Maybe I am way off base.
Comments will let me know I guess.
EDIT: There appears to be some confusion here so I will clarify. I don't want Destiny to change. It should be a social game. It's awesome that way. I DO have a good time in 90% of Fireteams. I play with people all the time. The ONLY thing I would want either removed or tweaked is Skill Based Matchmaking. BUT THAT IS NOT WHAT THIS POST IS ABOUT. I'm just trying to give a perspective of why players choose to play Solo. Even with friends, not everyone can beat a Raid or go Flawless in Trials, and that is the way it should be. I LOVE DESTINY.
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I can understand and even somewhat relate to what you wrote. I use to appear offline all the time to play games and not have to worry about anybody "bothering" me when I just wanted to play something alone. I still have moments and sometimes days where I just don't want to deal with people, friend or stranger doesn't matter I just don't have it in me to keep up that acceptable social norm front sometimes. I can be a rough around the edges, mean, arrogant, cold hearted, apathetic prick sometimes and I know that can rub people the wrong way so I have to censor myself quite a bit to maintain any semblance of social relationships. I know this and understand this about myself and most of my friends do to but I can still be tough be around sometimes if that makes sense. So there are times where yes I can play a game with people but seriously have absolutely zero desire to talk or interact with them on a personal or more social level. I did stop appearing offline though and just started telling everybody no I don't want to join the party I am just gonna play solo. I also do get irritated sometimes when we will all hop in a party and end up talking nonsense about nothing truly important for an hour and a half before finally playing the game. Normally I am fine with it and enjoy it, i really do like talking and joking with friends but when you only have roughly 2 hours to play something I don't feel like losing over half that time not playing. I just started speaking up though and saying hey guys I only got like 2 hours can we get this thing going or what? Then we start playing and return to joking around once the game starts. Basically I do understand and honestly didn't think there was a large portion of people that didn't understand why someone would want to play solo.
