Its glancing vs taking a head count. Apples and oranges For an accurate analogy you'd need to count up all the people in a large public gathering with even the slightest of asymmetrical facial features and start comparing them to your vision of perfection. Your problem is you're equating being gay to basically having a horn growing out of your head. If you can't see the issue with that comparison and how it probably makes you a bigot, then I'm affraid this conversation will be completely lost on you.