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Edited by FelifluxMadness:
9/13/2019 11:22:40 PM
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How do you help someone who struggles with an addictive personality
Genuine question.
A friend of mine keeps screwing up and falling off the wagon and he hates himeself for it every time because of the terrible decisions he makes. Besides offering my concern, I really don't know how else to get through to him, because he gets a one track mind when he drinks that leads him to doing things he regrets, but he knows what he's doing is stupid.
At the same time I can't be his babysitter, and I don't want to straight up deck him in the face to get my points across.
Anyway. Question stands.
Edit: Thanks for your perspectives, dudes.
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Ultimately you can do nothing more than offer support. Most times that's nothing more than just being open and available to them, but never condoning the actions that they keep failing at. It's called accountability. It takes 2 people to do it. So if you find after a while that you are the only one actually participating, it may be time to sever your connection to them if they are on a self destructive path. It doesn't mean you disown them, but you keep some distance from them because that destructiveness can and often does bleed over onto the one trying to help. Bottom line is, the friend has to do one of 2 things; A) they make a determined effort to clean up and stop drinking. (Less likely) There are ways that they can stop and change their life. B) they have to hit rock bottom HARD before either making a concerted decision to change, or they may run out of chances, if you get my meaning. It sucks and it's rough either way, but as a friend, those are really your only options.
