I'm going to be That Person, and offer some how-to in order to prevent things going in what for me has sometimes been a predictably bad way: - don't 'special' me, please. I'm not 'differently abled' either. It's ok to say disabled. It's not a dirty word. I don't enjoy outing myself, either - I've been invited to things without my consent because people assumed because I struggle to play the game sometimes, they would 'do me a favour'. No, it isn't a favour to drag me to a raid, it's exhausting and I'll pay for it for days afterwards. I've had groups ask some really uncool questions about How Disabled I Am, which honestly isn't anyone's business. I am just trying to play a game, I'm not someone's special 'feel-good' project. And, this is horrible, but it's true - there are people who specifically seek out disabled/ill/neurodiverse people via video games. It's creepy, but it's happened to me and friends more than once. Sometimes, it's wise to be cautious. I play with a very close group of folks because I don't want to have to explain to total strangers why I can't do certain things ingame. They earned that trust by just being good people generally, which helps a tonne. Don't assume everyone's been playing for years - I've never played a shooter since four months ago. I started as physiotherapy, and sometimes it's not been fun at all. But, often, being the only person standing, rezzing everyone else because they forget poor ol' crippled Grandma has been gaming since longer than most have been on the planet is pretty damn entertaining. Underestimate me because of being 'special' and I'll dance be your ghost for a few seconds. All I'm saying is - we aren't a mythical group of people. And there's more of us Spoonies/disabled/neurodiverse people than you think. Just be kind, and that will spread - I've avoided strikes and regular content because of the lack of patience people have with people who don't have them all memorised due to years of playing. And I certainly won't ever step foot in PvP, Gambit or anything else after reading these forums for a few weeks. But I remember the people who wait as I struggle for the umpteenth time with a series of jumps, and who don't zerg ahead and wait for me to catch up when I get lost. I remember who fistbumps with an emote when I give my /thank . Quite a few people do that, so my friend list is growing, though I may never have the energy to join them on their missions, or talk on the mic.