When I was playing Destiny 2, lol, I could tell the same when I would play against PlayStation players (PS player are know to have the highest net latency of all cross play platforms;), and I am on PC. And on PC there is no way to turn cross play off that I know of LOL. I'm assuming it's only on console? Anyways, the point that I was getting at that agreed with you was, I have a deal with number and time management (autism) and the matches that have cross play activated, always take anywhere between 5 to 10 times longer to load in the pre-match, and in the aftermatch lobby. Before you go back to orbit, it will just sit there be stuck at 0 seconds.