I’m the kind of person that can’t help but cry when I see someone I care about crying, which is empathy. That response is something I have little to no control over, it’s a natural empathetic response. Most people have similar responses built into their brains; being affected when people you love are affected. People who have none of that at all should maybe probably talk to a psychiatrist. I can’t imagine thinking of empathy that way. It’s not always a voluntary thing. Sometimes I have to try to be empathetic, and thats ok bc I’m human, but I can’t say I remember ever thinking about having empathy only to make someone like me