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Edited by Felicia402: 7/21/2013 5:15:11 PM
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Criticizing and making inappropriate comments on female member's appearances

Now before I begin, I know exactly what I'm getting myself into here. I'm prepared for the flaming and the insults, but I'm going to put on my brave face here, and finally say something which I believe has been on a lot of other member's minds, but nobody wants to speak up in fear of being ridiculed. Inappropriate I've noticed some people, if not a lot of people, on these forums somehow think criticizing, comparing, and making rather disgusting comments on a females appearance is okay. Now, I'm not sure what you guys talk about privately or around your "buds" in real life (I mean, I've discussed other people's appearances before to friends in a mature manner) however do you guys do so around the actual girls you're discussing? I'm assuming not, but if you do, seriously, learn better manners. I know we all like to sit around and post images of models and actresses then critic their looks. It's all in good fun, I acknowledge that and that's fine, but when you're doing so to girls that are SEEING your comments and you're well AWARE they're seeing your comments, what makes you think that's okay? What makes you think because these females post pictures of themselves, that you have the right to say you find them unattractive or compare them to one another? This is NOT okay behavior, and it doesn't matter how much you try to justify it, [b]it never will be okay.[/b] If you went up to a girl in public and said "Meh. 5/10. Seen better", you'd be considered an asshole. If you went up to two girls in public and said one was better looking than the other, you're an asshole. Comment on a girl's picture on Facebook saying "You got a good body, your face on the other had...", you'd be considered an asshole. Just because you're anonymous and because these random females post pictures of themselves online, doesn't make you any less of an asshole. Sorry to inform you. Now before you all just start slurring comments such as; >"Well don't post pictures of yourself if you care so much!!!", (which still don't justify such horrible behavior) I don't care. I'm content with my appearance, and if I wasn't, no I wouldn't have had posted pictures of myself. It is all in good fun, and shouldn't be no different than a male member posting a picture. [b]Looks are irrelevant on a internet forum.[/b] >"Don't be so insecure!" I can ensure you, I'm not. If I was I would have NEVER made a thread like this. I'm prepared for a ton of insults coming my way for simply making this thread. >"It's an opinion! Deal with it! I can say what I want online." Sometimes it's best to keep opinions to yourself. We all can be judgmental, and I'm definitely no angel myself, but I don't be going up to be people saying negative comments about things they cannot change. That would make me a [b]mean person.[/b] It doesn't matter if you're online or in person, this is still [b]mean.[/b] >"Like if someone posts art online, I'll tell them how I truly feel so they can improve!" Unlike art, you can't change your appearance, and seriously nobody say plastic surgery. This thread was made out of curiosity, and curiosity alone. I just want to know why you guys think this behavior is okay. I was going to keep this thread within TFS, but I don't think my main target members will be able to see it. I may regret doing so, but come on guys, for once show everyone we're not such a god awful shit-tier forum. I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!

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  • The last time I commented on a lady's picture here (which happens to be the only time) I went all crazy fangirl because I thought she looked good. But I see what you mean.

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  • Just stick it in his pooper.. that'll keep things even

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  • I hate to say this, but this is the internet. Nobody knows who you are really. There's no face chat on this here site. People who put pictures of themselves, at least that's what they claim to be, are asking for either a.) compliments or b.) to be offended. It's the person's fault for posting the pics, knowing that the reactions are going to be both good and bad.

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  • Yashie?

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    • What do you expect from a forum where there is a thread of "choose a IRL pokemon or an irl perfect girl" and the majority choose the pokemon?

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      • ITT insecure dipshits.

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      • If you have said anything judge mental about a person(which I am sure you have) please shut up, stop pointing fingers, realize you probably had a role to play on what was going on and get over it. Also, anything I say on here, would be exactly what I would say in front of people. I'm not a hypocritical person who hides behind whispered gentle insults...

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        • Good thread, Felicia.

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        • Edited by KilljoyDetective: 7/18/2013 6:21:39 AM
          Exactly what i stated in a thread earlier, and i personally have been getting fed up with that shit lately, so please people, try and take that advice to heart.

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        • humans care about what is said on the internet? lol

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          • I never personally comment on the pictures of females online, I have personal opinions, otherwise I only comment on their appearance publicly if that person is a complete bitch and has done something I don't care for or is generally just an awful person.

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          • Edited by Y SO REACH BETA: 7/18/2013 6:03:47 AM
            After seeing the response I see that she did not mean she talks maliciously about people behind their backs. And yes the treatment of people on this forum and the amount of singling out can be terrible.

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            • Felicia I agree with you. I think the problem here (and yes I'm generalizing) is that most of the guys on here either A: were never taught how to treat a woman with respect B: Don't care C: socially awkward around women IRL While I think that the threads should definitely stop, it most likely will not because this is the internet.

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            • *insert obligatory inappropriate comment about OP's appearance here* No, but seriously, this is the internet. Everyone here has a computer and a screen name to hide behind. Nothing about it is in person. As such, people are going to say whatever the hell they want, no matter who can see it. And, lets be honest, you obviously care a little about what others think of your appearance here and are insecure to some small degree, otherwise you wouldn't have posted your pictures, and wouldn't have made this thread. I'm not saying the people you mentioned aren't assholes, because for all I know, they might be, But you can't really get mad at someone for saying what they think when they have something to hide behind. That's just human nature.

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            • They're just insecure. Use Mute whenever these types of people appear.

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            • In my opinion, none of the females on this site are attractive.

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              • I think Felicia cares too much about other people's opinions towards others. No matter how mean.

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                • They think it's not sexual harassment if it's anonymous.

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                    Build some character you freaking crybaby. If you let a stranger control your emotions with words you are simply weak, and YOU have no room to talk.

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                    • I agree with you Felicia but... [quote] I mean, I have chat sessions with my girl friends on other people's appearances as well, but in private[/quote] ...this statement just makes you come off as a hypocritical bitch. I'm sorry to say. I mean said girls should have known that this forum is full of asses before they made themselves not anonymous anymore. It's like seeing a pack of hungry wolves and jumping in the middle of them.

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                      • This treatment isn't exclusive to females, EVERYONE catches flak in picture threads. And while it's still a dick move to insult someone you don't know it is never going to change. And if you are offended by some random person that you will probably never meet then you need to grow thicker skin. I receive numerous hate mail on Xbox and PC of gamers claiming that they are going to kill me or sexually abuse my mother yet you don't see people cowering in fear of their life.

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                        • Edited by B3ar: 7/18/2013 2:45:46 AM
                          The internet doesnt have manners unfortunately. Your response to this just fuels the fire. Its a form of trolling and it clearly works on the female members. People have noticed the female members here usually only comment on the forums that involve their appearance. It rustles their jimmies and it brings them all together in one place. If you guys want it to stop maybe stop posting in those forum topics every time? Unless you secretly like it and make it appear that you don't? I really don't understand this whole drama bullshit. Ignore and move on.

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                        • Okay, so in real life you talk about others' appearance in private? That's nice. That's exactly what this is since no one is posting their full names or anything. This is pretty much anonymous, which is exactly what you're talking about doing in private. The only real difference is that here anonymous includes the people we talk about. If you're gonna be offended don't make yourself not anonymous.

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                          • Edited by Brian OA: 7/18/2013 4:52:45 AM
                            Consider this: Everyone's an asshole to each other on the internet, no exceptions. It's not like the treatment is exclusive to certain groups. In other words, it's not that women get picked on because they're looked down on or whatever, it's just that's how it is around here. The behavior you see here is indiscriminate, not to mention permanent. There's always bound to be someone just waiting to make a witty or otherwise harmful remark to the first person they find. Hell, I'd bet there's no one out there that hasn't walked out of a thread on this site buttmad as all hell, regardless of gender, race, age, political view, or whatever. Don't expect a bunch of anons to be nice to each other. You're better off posting in Facebook or asking users you're familiar with if you want nice/constructive comments. The best part? It can't be helped at all. It's been like this since the dawn of time and it will never change. Unless you implement thought crime or something along those lines.

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                            • How did they get the pictures?

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                            • Its times like this when I am really happy to be off the market. Its all about my woman!

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