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Edited by Felicia402:
7/21/2013 5:15:11 PM
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Criticizing and making inappropriate comments on female member's appearances
Now before I begin, I know exactly what I'm getting myself into here. I'm prepared for the flaming and the insults, but I'm going to put on my brave face here, and finally say something which I believe has been on a lot of other member's minds, but nobody wants to speak up in fear of being ridiculed. Inappropriate
I've noticed some people, if not a lot of people, on these forums somehow think criticizing, comparing, and making rather disgusting comments on a females appearance is okay. Now, I'm not sure what you guys talk about privately or around your "buds" in real life (I mean, I've discussed other people's appearances before to friends in a mature manner) however do you guys do so around the actual girls you're discussing? I'm assuming not, but if you do, seriously, learn better manners.
I know we all like to sit around and post images of models and actresses then critic their looks. It's all in good fun, I acknowledge that and that's fine, but when you're doing so to girls that are SEEING your comments and you're well AWARE they're seeing your comments, what makes you think that's okay? What makes you think because these females post pictures of themselves, that you have the right to say you find them unattractive or compare them to one another? This is NOT okay behavior, and it doesn't matter how much you try to justify it, [b]it never will be okay.[/b] If you went up to a girl in public and said "Meh. 5/10. Seen better", you'd be considered an asshole. If you went up to two girls in public and said one was better looking than the other, you're an asshole. Comment on a girl's picture on Facebook saying "You got a good body, your face on the other had...", you'd be considered an asshole. Just because you're anonymous and because these random females post pictures of themselves online, doesn't make you any less of an asshole. Sorry to inform you.
Now before you all just start slurring comments such as;
>"Well don't post pictures of yourself if you care so much!!!", (which still don't justify such horrible behavior) I don't care. I'm content with my appearance, and if I wasn't, no I wouldn't have had posted pictures of myself. It is all in good fun, and shouldn't be no different than a male member posting a picture. [b]Looks are irrelevant on a internet forum.[/b]
>"Don't be so insecure!" I can ensure you, I'm not. If I was I would have NEVER made a thread like this. I'm prepared for a ton of insults coming my way for simply making this thread.
>"It's an opinion! Deal with it! I can say what I want online." Sometimes it's best to keep opinions to yourself. We all can be judgmental, and I'm definitely no angel myself, but I don't be going up to be people saying negative comments about things they cannot change. That would make me a [b]mean person.[/b] It doesn't matter if you're online or in person, this is still [b]mean.[/b]
>"Like if someone posts art online, I'll tell them how I truly feel so they can improve!" Unlike art, you can't change your appearance, and seriously nobody say plastic surgery.
This thread was made out of curiosity, and curiosity alone. I just want to know why you guys think this behavior is okay. I was going to keep this thread within TFS, but I don't think my main target members will be able to see it. I may regret doing so, but come on guys, for once show everyone we're not such a god awful shit-tier forum. I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!
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Edited by Erkyo: 7/18/2013 2:40:25 AMAs much as I've tried to stay away from the Flood forum since my perma-ban has been lifted recently (thanks to Bungie.next) I keep strolling through here. Three years too long I must say. Btw it's not a good idea to say how much a Bungie employee enjoys being anal trusted by another Bungie employee in a gorilla suit wearing a cowboy hat, while using the safe word of another Bungie employee. Lesson learned I assure you! (Stupid Sh-Blam!KA) LOL Those were the days. Anywho... Durring my recent strolls through the park I've have noticed a lot perverted crap going on around regarding members as yourself being what I considered harassed just because mainly you are the female gender. And whether or not you post pictures of yourself or not, is not a reason why you should sub come to harsh words of other members. Just isn't right in my book. And just because this is a game forum on a website doesn't mean it's okay to do so. The problem with the youth of today is a loss of morals. Utmost knowing how to respect one another via in person or on the internet esspecially with the way boys treat women. I say boys because no man that I know would use such vulgar language when talking to any lady young or old. When I'm at work us gentlemen say our vulgar jokes ( no matter what the tpic may be) to our selves, and if another female co worker walks in we stop until she leaves. It's just a matter of respect. Call me Old school ( please do btw), but that's how it should be. Women already have enough pressure as it is from the media such as TV movies magazines, porn, and what have ya, to obtain a certain look. Degrading them only make today's women feel more self conscious and detached from themselves and we as men wonder why there isn't a woman worth having or why they "act like sluts" and it's because we make them that way. All in all if we want to change anything it starts here! If we can't treat someone over the freaking internet forum with respect then when the hell are you boys going to drop your balls and become men to do it face to face with a woman in real life? This should be practice for you on how to treat a woman with dignity, not with disgrace! EDIT: So to answer your question OP, NO I don't agree it's okay to do so.
