Now before I begin, I know exactly what I'm getting myself into here. I'm prepared for the flaming and the insults, but I'm going to put on my brave face here, and finally say something which I believe has been on a lot of other member's minds, but nobody wants to speak up in fear of being ridiculed. Inappropriate
I've noticed some people, if not a lot of people, on these forums somehow think criticizing, comparing, and making rather disgusting comments on a females appearance is okay. Now, I'm not sure what you guys talk about privately or around your "buds" in real life (I mean, I've discussed other people's appearances before to friends in a mature manner) however do you guys do so around the actual girls you're discussing? I'm assuming not, but if you do, seriously, learn better manners.
I know we all like to sit around and post images of models and actresses then critic their looks. It's all in good fun, I acknowledge that and that's fine, but when you're doing so to girls that are SEEING your comments and you're well AWARE they're seeing your comments, what makes you think that's okay? What makes you think because these females post pictures of themselves, that you have the right to say you find them unattractive or compare them to one another? This is NOT okay behavior, and it doesn't matter how much you try to justify it, [b]it never will be okay.[/b] If you went up to a girl in public and said "Meh. 5/10. Seen better", you'd be considered an asshole. If you went up to two girls in public and said one was better looking than the other, you're an asshole. Comment on a girl's picture on Facebook saying "You got a good body, your face on the other had...", you'd be considered an asshole. Just because you're anonymous and because these random females post pictures of themselves online, doesn't make you any less of an asshole. Sorry to inform you.
Now before you all just start slurring comments such as;
>"Well don't post pictures of yourself if you care so much!!!", (which still don't justify such horrible behavior) I don't care. I'm content with my appearance, and if I wasn't, no I wouldn't have had posted pictures of myself. It is all in good fun, and shouldn't be no different than a male member posting a picture. [b]Looks are irrelevant on a internet forum.[/b]
>"Don't be so insecure!" I can ensure you, I'm not. If I was I would have NEVER made a thread like this. I'm prepared for a ton of insults coming my way for simply making this thread.
>"It's an opinion! Deal with it! I can say what I want online." Sometimes it's best to keep opinions to yourself. We all can be judgmental, and I'm definitely no angel myself, but I don't be going up to be people saying negative comments about things they cannot change. That would make me a [b]mean person.[/b] It doesn't matter if you're online or in person, this is still [b]mean.[/b]
>"Like if someone posts art online, I'll tell them how I truly feel so they can improve!" Unlike art, you can't change your appearance, and seriously nobody say plastic surgery.
This thread was made out of curiosity, and curiosity alone. I just want to know why you guys think this behavior is okay. I was going to keep this thread within TFS, but I don't think my main target members will be able to see it. I may regret doing so, but come on guys, for once show everyone we're not such a god awful shit-tier forum. I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!
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Edited by Frost: 7/18/2013 3:40:03 AMI'm actually happy that [i]you[/i] brought this up, because people are going to read it. Now, the sheer amount of general hate on these forums is irritating enough, but I do think that this is becoming a bigger issue, and I like those types of posts as much as I like religious and political shit-posts. With that said, I feel like I have to point this part out, as it just stood out to me. [quote]>[u]"It's an opinion! Deal with it! I can say what I want online."[/u] Sometimes it's best to keep opinions to yourself. We all can be judgmental, and I'm definitely no angel myself, but I don't be going up to be people saying negative comments about things they cannot change. That would make me a mean person. It doesn't matter if you're online or in person, this is still mean.[/quote] The thing is that A LOT of people here seem to not understand how to express their opinions. I can say "Blue is my favorite color", or I can say "Blue is the best color." Which of these two do you see used more on these forums? Because for the most part I see the "my opinion is right and you should all bow down to me and agree with my personal preference" option. Honestly, I don't give a -blam!- about your opinions, an opinion is your personal preference and does not have to match up with mine at all, an opinion can't be right or wrong because it is what you prefer, not what your mom prefers, not what your best friend prefers, and not what you -blam!-ing goldfish prefers, it's only you. What I'm trying to say here is that people on this website give way to big of a flying -blam!- about other people's opinions. If you see a thread about something you don't like and for whatever reason decide to post in it, don't go and shit-post about how much you hate the topic, [i]because no one else gives a -blam!- about your opinion that they do not agree with.[/i] We live in a world that's ugly enough, you don't have to go and make it worse by shit-posting about someone's appearance. We don't care what you think, and the person you are insulting for absolutely no reason at all should not care either, because what you are saying is a completely worthless waste of space and energy that could be spent saving a -blam!-ing kitten or something. /rant *EDIT: Holy wall of text...