*Sigh*.. [quote]So you mean to say, you don't sit down with your buds and discuss a model's or actress's appearance? I'm sorry, but I just don't find Channing Tatum all that attractive. Guess that makes me a bitch for discussing that with my friends, huh? The difference is I don't insult others, knowing that they'll see it and possibly get hurt by it. Like I've already stated in my thread, we all can be judgmental and I'm no exception. When my friends are talking about this girl or guy and saying "Yeah he/she is really attractive", why can't I say "Meh. I don't think they are"? I'm just sharing an opinion with friends. I'm not saying it to the person themselves, then it would be rude. The situations is COMPLETELY different. To be an "asshole" would mean I'd have to say or do things to make another person feel bad. If you think in your mind when a girl walks by "I don't find her attractive" does that make you a secret asshole? No, because you can't control your thoughts. If my friends are having a discussion about one's looks, why can't I say "I don't or do find them attractive", it's not hurting that person any way whatsoever. It's not like I'm stating it in a way such as "Omg! He/she is sooo ugly! I wouldn't touch them with a stick!". That's a rather mean comment. When I discuss someone's looks with another, the conversation usually goes like; Them: "Man, they're really hot!" Me: "Meh. I personally don't find them THAT attractive." That's it. That's as bad as it gets, and if you still believe that makes me an "asshole" or a "secret asshole" you're either a troll or lack some serious common sense. [/quote]

Yes I'll say I don't find them attractive, I might discuss something they did to someone else and yes, I'm human sometimes I do say something mean. But I try not to say things like "She's a fat disgusting bitch." I try to avoid negative discussion about people I can effect. I might criticize something about the person by saying I think he/she is cruel to others or something along that general line. I take issue with speaking negatively (Saying things just to be malicious) about people behind their back. When I was in middle school I had a group of friends who had talked behind my back and were just generally mean about people when they weren't around. The people who weren't involved in that stopped talking to the people who were doing that. For me it's a bit more personal and I try to think what it would be like for someone to hear all the things said about them while they weren't there. With celebrities it's not the same, I don't have any effect on their life, I might exaggerate and say so and so is such and such but I almost never mean it. I'm just really against passive aggressive actions and for me that includes talking ill of people who aren't around to defend themselves. I understand why you made the thread and I agree that treatment of others can be despicable on this forum and I do agree that whenever a woman posts the assumption more often than not is that the post is seeking attention. Some people are mean and on the internet they can be mean without recourse. It sucks but that's the way it is. I thought you meant you made mean comments about them because it was in a paragraph where you were criticizing the mean people who make those comments openly. Anyway sorry for the confusion and remember, not everyone on the internet is a dick, I try to hold myself to a standard in regards to how a treat people and many others do too. Most times the people making those comments are the minority.

Stop acting like saying bad shit behind a persons back is fine. It still makes you just as much as a dick Felicia.

Did you not read what I just said, or are you just trolling?

I think you should edit your original post to specify that you don't make malicious comments behind people's backs, it does seem as though you're saying you make malicious comments, but in private.