*Sigh*.. [quote]So you mean to say, you don't sit down with your buds and discuss a model's or actress's appearance? I'm sorry, but I just don't find Channing Tatum all that attractive. Guess that makes me a bitch for discussing that with my friends, huh? The difference is I don't insult others, knowing that they'll see it and possibly get hurt by it. Like I've already stated in my thread, we all can be judgmental and I'm no exception. When my friends are talking about this girl or guy and saying "Yeah he/she is really attractive", why can't I say "Meh. I don't think they are"? I'm just sharing an opinion with friends. I'm not saying it to the person themselves, then it would be rude. The situations is COMPLETELY different. To be an "asshole" would mean I'd have to say or do things to make another person feel bad. If you think in your mind when a girl walks by "I don't find her attractive" does that make you a secret asshole? No, because you can't control your thoughts. If my friends are having a discussion about one's looks, why can't I say "I don't or do find them attractive", it's not hurting that person any way whatsoever. It's not like I'm stating it in a way such as "Omg! He/she is sooo ugly! I wouldn't touch them with a stick!". That's a rather mean comment. When I discuss someone's looks with another, the conversation usually goes like; Them: "Man, they're really hot!" Me: "Meh. I personally don't find them THAT attractive." That's it. That's as bad as it gets, and if you still believe that makes me an "asshole" or a "secret asshole" you're either a troll or lack some serious common sense. [/quote]