You say things behind people's backs that you would not say to their face...why would you not say it to their face? If what you're saying isn't that bad, what is the problem? No matter what you say to yourself to justify what you're doing, according to you, you are doing exactly what you say is wrong and needs to stop. I don't enjoy hurting people, I just don't care unless I care about you. If you would like to know why I don't care ask me in a private message(it is about my past and not for the faint of heart). The reason I say get over it, is because any weakness you show the truly cruel people, they are just going to use it to their advantage and it does very little to help change it. People, on a whole, are bad and know that I agree with your statement to a degree, but everyone gets verbally abused here, not just woman, hell not just mostly women.