I'm going to say one thing and leave it at this. You don't know what other peoples best is. You don't know what other people consider good enough. You are trying to solve your problems the easy way, you care about things that you want to care about and not the important things. You don't know how people function but you assume that everyone functions the same. You are the worst they of person. I'm sure that you are a horrible husband and father. That much I as sure of.