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2/3/2014 12:30:59 PM
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Girl advice
This is the situation:
A girl I've been going out with and being intimate with for the past year (not officially in a relationship though) has also been going out with another guy. In the end it looks like he was more successful, and the girl admitted to me that he liked him after they went out several times together over winter break. [b]HOWEVER, me and the girl happen to be close friends as well, and she told me she wouldn't date the guy formally even though they liked each other.[/b]
The questions I have are:
1. Does going out with a guy but not announcing it count as dating?
2. We did basically everything couples do other than making out and sex (but we weren't officially in a relationship). Does this mean I had been basically dating her? (related to the first question)
3. She said a while back she would go out with me for Valentine's Day. Do you think think this offer still stands? If so, should I still do it?
4. Should I stop being friends with her? How should I deal with the current situation?
5. Is it actually possible/worth it for a guy and a girl to be just friends forever and not date?
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Dude, go buy Snoop Doggy Dogs albumn Doggystyle. It explains everything you need to know about how to treat a women. He says it ain't no fun if the homies can't have none. That's solid advice. Just remember , I don't love them ho's I'm out the door.
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Edited by Magical Robot: 2/4/2014 4:40:48 AMTalk to her about it. You can't play chess and not know where all the pieces are. As a friend and potential companion, ask her what she wants. I have many friends, that just so happen to be women, I'm going to one of their weddings on may 15th. The gender wall that gets in the way of your friendship is imaginary, and is placed there by selfish desire. You can still "date" her if you two want, and she can date the other guy too, so long as no relationship status is claimed. Honesty is the best way to handle this situation. Talk to her about it, tell her what you would like, but if that's not what she want's you can still be friends. It's only a game because you make it one, be straight forward about this, and cut out the crap.
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[quote]Don't waste your time[/quote] Sound advice.
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Make sure the guy continually gets sloppy seconds to establish your dominance.
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It's not worth it to play that game, bro.
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Choke that hoe! lol just kidding. Just avoid her.
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Keep being friends but that's as far as it goes. I'm too burnt out to explain why.
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It sounds to me like she was using you brosky. Ouch.
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Don't waste your time.
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What is up with everyone's obsession with grills
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Wouldn't it be wonderful if this other guy were to somehow get into an accident? [spoiler]5,000 bucks and it's done.[/spoiler]
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1 ReplySounds like you were just kinda led on. Keep being friends or not you don't have a chance with her to be more than friends.
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5 RepliesRead the first sentence and NOPE!'d. [quote]1. Does going out with a guy but not announcing it count as dating? Doesn't matter. 2. We did basically everything couples do other than making out and sex (but we weren't officially in a relationship). Does this mean I had been basically dating her? (related to the first question) No. Just mans you were used. Especially if she was publicly known as dating some other guy. 3. She said a while back she would go out with me for Valentine's Day. Do you think think this offer still stands? If so, should I still do it? No. 4. Should I stop being friends with her? How should I deal with the current situation? Drop her. 5. Is it actually possible/worth it for a guy and a girl to be just friends forever and not date? Irrelevant here. She has already used you for whatever she wanted at the time, she'll just continue to do so. [/quote]
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1 Reply1: Depends on your definition of "dating". In the end, what's done is done and it doesn't matter what you call it. 2: Again, depends on your definition. IMO, bang-buds, -blam!--pals, lovers, whatever. It was what it was. 3: Times change, promises become null and void. 4: Do you value the friendship? If so yes. Are you thinking about continuing the friendship for an occasional romp? Then it's a matter of how you feel and if that investment is worth the possibility of no romps and being friends. 5: Absolutely. It's a mistake IMO to try to make a template for friends, dating, lovers, etc. and then try to force the relationship to match the template and your personal definition of "what this should be". If you have someone in your life who you enjoy having there? Keep them. If you or they want to alter the relationship? Discuss it. If the change is mutually agreeable and both like it better the new way? Wonderful!
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3 RepliesWait, how were you intimate if you never made out or had sex?
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Sad story is sad.
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1 ReplyTalk about love triangle.
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tee yell DEE ARR
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1 ReplyYou either assert your dominance, or you leave her in search of favorable females.
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Where is the "stick it in her pooper" option?? Are you even a Floodian?
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Ask if you can stick it in her pooper. If she says no, leave a ricin-filled envelope in her mailbox
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Sounds like the friendzone.
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Sooo she is not really dating you, and not really dating him. But she is kind of dating both...? Sounds like you should go find someone else.
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1 ReplyAsk her what she thinks of you and judge where you should go from there.
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1 ReplyNo, yes, no, no, yes. You may remain friends if you really want to, but she sounds like a person of questionable morality so keep that in mind.
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First things first. Don't ask the Flood for girl advice, ask one of her friends.
