This is the situation:
A girl I've been going out with and being intimate with for the past year (not officially in a relationship though) has also been going out with another guy. In the end it looks like he was more successful, and the girl admitted to me that he liked him after they went out several times together over winter break. [b]HOWEVER, me and the girl happen to be close friends as well, and she told me she wouldn't date the guy formally even though they liked each other.[/b]
The questions I have are:
1. Does going out with a guy but not announcing it count as dating?
2. We did basically everything couples do other than making out and sex (but we weren't officially in a relationship). Does this mean I had been basically dating her? (related to the first question)
3. She said a while back she would go out with me for Valentine's Day. Do you think think this offer still stands? If so, should I still do it?
4. Should I stop being friends with her? How should I deal with the current situation?
5. Is it actually possible/worth it for a guy and a girl to be just friends forever and not date?
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Edited by Magical Robot: 2/4/2014 4:40:48 AMTalk to her about it. You can't play chess and not know where all the pieces are. As a friend and potential companion, ask her what she wants. I have many friends, that just so happen to be women, I'm going to one of their weddings on may 15th. The gender wall that gets in the way of your friendship is imaginary, and is placed there by selfish desire. You can still "date" her if you two want, and she can date the other guy too, so long as no relationship status is claimed. Honesty is the best way to handle this situation. Talk to her about it, tell her what you would like, but if that's not what she want's you can still be friends. It's only a game because you make it one, be straight forward about this, and cut out the crap.