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8/18/2014 8:57:14 AM
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Why do girls never date nice guys?
Literally every girl I'm interested goes out with the jerk. Why can't they date a nice guy like me? It's completely stupid.
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Is this about that one date you went on recently at mcdonalds?
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nice guys are boring and safe.
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A lot of times it depends on what age group you are in, and whether your attempt to get her is pretty good. Doing nice things for her won't make her your girlfriend. Having confidence, being funny, and asking her out are how you get them. Girls won't understand the subtle things you do. I'm a nice guy in my second relationship.
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2 RepliesEdited by TheArtist: 8/19/2014 1:45:56 PM1. Unless you treat a woman badly, what she is attracted to is more about HER than it is about you. 2. What she is attracted is a combination of three things: Family history; Cultural programming; and biology. 3. Family history. Most people---women especially---tend to be attracted to people who blend the personality traits of their parents (or other primary care giver). Often they are attracted to people who bear a physical resemblance to their opposite-sex parent. 4. Culture. People are bombarded from the time they are young that they are supposed to find certain things appealing. Women are bombarded with the message that they are suppose to want a "high-status" (tall, strong, dominant, wealthy) male. T 5. There are many biological (scent) cues that will affect whom women find attractive. Drawing them towards people who are biologically different than they are (avoid in-breeding), and away from people who are biologically too similar to themselves. Women are not perfect. They are not infallible. They are not goddesses. So don't put your sense of self-worth in their hands. Many women are "attracted to jerks". ....because they don't know any better. They may have grown up in homes with fathers who weren't particularly good to them....or weren't even there. They may have ideas that "love" has to be this painful emotional roller-coaster...so they get "bored" (read: anxious) when they are in the presence of someone who treats them decently. Others seek the "high-status" male...and often that comes with some mildy anti-social traits. So they wind up with someone who is self-centered...or even hostile. At the end of the day....the rejection may FEEL personal....but it isn't. It just means that she's looking for a pattern that you don't fit...and you may not even WANT to fit. Be yourself...and see who shows up. As women mature, they start to develop a better appreciation of "nice guys" that they usually lack when they are young. As they start to look for husbands and fathers...and not just "exciting" boyfriends. Trust me. You'd rather be HATED for who you truly are than "loved" for someone you aren't. Be the kind of mate you wish to attract. IOW, if you want someone whose going to look for deeper character traits in you...and not go for a flashy exterior....then you must be prepared to do the same. Don't ask for someone to appreciate your deeper traits...while you can't see past the head of the cheerleading squad and the homecoming queen.
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Join the club buddy!!! :D
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Because they are Hippocrates that bitch about men being shallow when that's exactly the case for them as well. Just laugh at their misery and enjoy a real women.
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I HATE MY LIFE IAM NICE BUT.... WHATEVER I DON'T GIVE TO POOPS I LOST ALL MY VIDEOGAMES. I ONLY HAD THREE. IM SO PISSED.
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5 Replies*autism intensifies*
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Because the nice guys already have boyfriends.
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OP is a supreme gentlemen
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They do date guys who are nice. They just don't date guys who have nothing going for them other than the fact they're "nice".
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Evolution.
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The ironic thing is that most guys that say they're "nice guys" are narcissist anti socials that think they're better than every one else. [spoiler]long live Elliot Rodgers[/spoiler]
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1 ReplyAnd I quote: "the only reason that you're lonely is because you're fat and gay".
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You just need a better scooter
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Edited by Athhena: 8/19/2014 10:32:28 AMWhat makes any of you "nice guys" ? Honestly, the op complained and then essentially called any female who doesn't reciprocate his advances "stupid" NO, you're not a nice guy, you're an a$$hole but you're up on your high horse being jealous and calling every male who gets the attention a "jerk". You're not nice guys if you come onto the internet and put down women.
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Often enough you "nice" guys are creepy and obsessive I've found. Being nice should be a trait, not a defining feature of your personality.
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3 RepliesYou're interested in the wrong girls, simple.
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You just gotta take the crunchy with the smooth I suppose.
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[quote] You've gotta take the initiative OP [/quote]
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You've gotta take the initiative OP.
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Just..
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3 RepliesBecause they already have a Pusy
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Probably because you need to do more than just the bare minimum of decent behavior to attract her attention. If you're not showing a more than platonic interest, she's just going to assume you're not attracted to her and not give you a second thought. You need to directly express your attraction, not sit around and hope she notices you. Smile at her in a way that shows her that she is the reason you are smiling, tell her she's attractive/pretty/cute, and ask her out. It's really that simple. And no, it won't work every time because sometimes she just won't be attracted to you at all. But it [b]will[/b] work for any girl who might be able to find you appealing. You get your foot in the door by exposing yourself as a potential mate, not by becoming her friend and hoping that one day she magically becomes attracted to you.
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5 RepliesBecause a girl doesn't owe a guy sex just because they treated her like a human being.
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Are you sure they're the jerks? You're the one complaining about girls online and saying it's "completely stupid"
