Geez you take this real serious don't you ?. If a person has read your post online and sent you a message, they obviously speak the same language so that's a bonus. What I normally do then is join a party with them so I no they have a mic and can listen to instruction and give out instruction if they need too. While waiting for others to join we generally discuss tactics and how much they no about the VOG. I find that this helped dramatically. I'm not suggesting it doesn't need improvements or the content should be locked out. Changes do need to happen. Possibly an in game and stream line version of the destinylfg website.