I gotta say hambone, this one was a tough question. Sounds like it's letting some of us vent and such though, well done sir. I served in the military and had a friend lose his life while standing next to me, (when I say next to me I mean his brains, my face next to me). As such, I have the occasional flashback and all the other nonsense that goes with that ptsd stuff. Well, during one of our more heated fights, my wife informed me that "I was being a pansy about it all. That if I was a real man I'd just get over it, that I was broken and that it was no wonder the army didn't want me after I got hurt. Who needs a useless tool?" The next day she apologized and has actually been pretty supportive of me since. But man, that was the closest I've ever been to lashing out at her. (I threw a plate through the drywall like a frisbee and walked out of the room) We got it sorted out and our marriage is probably stronger for it now.