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This seemed to be the best place to reach out with a question like this. My wife doesn't play games such as destiny. She's more into the "just dance" and "super smash bros" crowd. In her eyes, every moment I spend gaming is a moment I don't get with her, even if she's sleeping. I find myself scheduling my gametime after the test of the family has gone to sleep, and my normal sleep rhythm had gone to pot as of the last couple weeks. I have no more candle to burn. So after reading a thread here about managing game time, I'm now reducing the time I spend each day playing to completing the daily, weekly heroic/nightfall (if not done), and some farming to level up my gear. I wanted to say hi and thank this group for helping me mature a little more as a gamer.
One final note, I have a good raid crew, but sadly we have yet to kill atheon. So while we may not have completed the raid, I'm willing to help out when anyone needs a +1 for most any event. Psn:Coedbeast (ps3 only)
Happy hunting guardians
Edit: I realized I never asked my question. Any suggestions on how to approach my wife about the game?
Edit 2: such wonderful comments. I have some ideas on what to do now. Thanks for the help. Nice to know there is a great bunch of gents here willing to help. Look forward to playing the game with you all. Well, all you ps3 users anyway.
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My wife does not understand gaming at all. But she doesn't need to. She just needs to understand why you game. I know the main reason my wife doesn't like me playing is because she knows once I start I won't pay any attention to her for the next two hours. So before I start to play I make sure to address her needs first. Does she have to talk about something? Does she need a break from the kids or from cooking? Is there something else she needs me to do? Or does she just want a few minutes to spend with me? Once I make sure her needs are met then I go an play. Not only does this save on the questions or frustration that I am not paying attention to her. It also shows that she comes first. Go out of your way to make her life easier and she will be more accepting when you need your time.