Society and culture from past generations have created this belief in life style, to be a good wife is to in other words be a "slave" in your own home. I can't remember how irritated I'd get when I saw my mother bring the dinner to the table, set the table for us all, then once she called us to eat we each took our plates and had our share. At least me and my brothers did, her partner would sit at the table tell her to serve his plate, bring him his drink so that he could eat(as if he had no hands of his own.) My brothers and I would wait for mother to sit so that we may start eating and by the time we did her man was ready for seconds, she would eat last and only once everyone was done, she'd was dishes and clean the table his man went to sleep or watch television. This irritates me because if one is in a relationship, it means that the two persons involved make each others life simpler. She would not rest or have time for herself till near midnight by then she was always too tired to do activities for her own enjoyment. This life is not one to wish upon anyone, nor one that should be seen as morally correct. I have a girlfriend and everytime we eat, we wait for one another and eat together. Clean after ourselves and do everything evenly, and I'll often offer to do things on my own for her to relax and watch tv, read, or simply scroll around in Facebook. I set my mind to never be a man/partner in a relationship that will ask my partner to grab a napkin and wipe my face because I got something on it and will not clean it myself, that is humiliating and disrespectful to my partner and should shame the person doing so. This is kind of off topic from your question but my point here is that being a mother does not mean enslaving yourself and letting life slip by a cultural role. I once told a woman from work that had a 2 year old daughter, that just because she has a daughter she should not give up on her own activities because of it, for she will only blame her children for not enjoying herself, this of course does not mean to not care for the child but to enjoy her life as equally as she cares for her growing youth. I say play away, we all need some time to be entertained, and not entertaining.