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originally posted in:Dads of Destiny
1/29/2015 4:21:06 PM
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Finding out the sex of your baby?
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I feel it's a total personal thing. That said. I think it's a surprise no matter when you find out. For me, know up front kinda let's me think more about who they are rather than just "baby". I know gender has little to do with personality but with two girls already, my thinking was, "awesome! I know how to be a dad to girls, second I got this! Fancy dresses and cars and now and arrows and Legos!" First daughter was very girly. Second one wants to wrestle me, work with tools, ride bikes and her favorite color is blue. So go figure! But whatever you do, do right by you, or what your wife wants. :)
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We wanted to a surprise and then we found out we were having twins. Our foster son kept telling us we were having twins and they will be a boy and girl. Guess what he was right on both.
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Yeah I wanted to know as soon as possible to get ready. I was as surprised with the sonogram as I would have been at the delivery. And when the babies were born there was so much going on that I don't think I would have even had time to really appreciate finding out the sex. Plus with the second one we wanted to settle on a name early so we could get her big sister used to the idea of there being another child sharing our attention. But to each his own. If you liked finding out that way and it was a special moment then I'm happy for you.
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3 RepliesI really don't mean this to be snarky, but how is it a "surprise"? There are 2 choices. When you flip a coin, are you surprised when it comes up heads?
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absolutely find out. gotta make sure you know whether to get the blue or the pink Tom Brady onesie Go Pats!!
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Find out and tell everyone that way they will buy your kid gender appropriate stuff...JMO
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2 RepliesWe never even discussed not wanting to know the sex. But, with me being (and loving being!) an only child, I wanted to have just one. My wife wanted 2 or 3. When we talked about it, I always answered that I understood her desire, but that we were having only one. Basically, I have a veto over that decision (she needs me for the second one!). Then, we're in the OB's office one day getting a routine ultrasound (I always went with her). The tech is scanning her belly and I can see the screen, but my wife can't. As she moves the wand, I see a little "blip, blip" on the screen. Cool - there was it's heartbeat! Then she moved it to another side, and I see "blip, blip". I looked down, and the wand was in a different position, on the total other side of her belly. I looked at the tech and said, "Um - what was that second blip?" She looked at us both and said, "You're going to have twins!" From that moment on, I could never even think of having only one. Turns out, we had a boy and girl. Boom - one and done! Got both of them in 1 try!! Now, if I could only get a Gjallarhorn and Hawkmoon from the same chest . . .
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2 RepliesEdited by Alpha Threat: 2/2/2015 2:08:56 PMPeople who don't wait are doing it wrong. Our first was a surprise and it's a moment I will always cherish.
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For so many reasons waiting to find out isn't an option I'd ever even consider. Fortunately the wife agrees so no need to keep it a secret.
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We found out for each of our boys (bit hard to miss with the first one since he was flashing on the ultrasound) for us it was a surprise on matter when we found out, finding out early helped with planning
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I wanted to find out with our daughter, and we did. It really helped me a lot because it hadn't really sunk in that we were having a baby. I could recognize "Wife=Pregnant" but I couldn't really grasp the baby part of that. When I found out I was having a little girl, that helped me visualize it and made it all so very real.
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We waited for both our boys! Made it special for us! To each their own
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Edited by F1Cheetor: 1/29/2015 11:49:53 PMGood point MattP14. However, it rarely happens when one calls it that way , refers to each pregnancy in it's full term as a Boy or girl and their feelings are correct. If it happened once fine. But it didn't. If you have little ones did you call it correctly? On top of that I personally thought it really cool because I naturally wanted only two kids with each being a girl FIRST and a boy SECOND. However, on your first baby, if you can call it that way and it happens, then ok, you are 100% correct in your reply. :-) P.S, Just noticed your other reply. This reply I made is just my personal experience. But you are correct in your reply if it happened only once ;-). Here's another fun and funny thing about me and my wife. Get this, I thought it would be cool if my daughter(now my team member in Destiny) was born in the month of March. The same month I was born in. My wife thought I was crazy to say the least. But she went with it and waited until I said "ok, let's do it during this time." Guess what? She was born 6 days after my birth date! Then I said, "Wouldn't it be cool if our son was born in your month!?". She was game for that too and low and behold he was born one day shy of that month. I know, crazy, right?
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1 ReplyEdited by F1Cheetor: 1/29/2015 6:36:40 PMAw, what a memorable time that was for us! When we decided to have our two kids 10 years ago, I had convinced my wife that we should not be tempted by the technology available in knowing the gender of the kids. I wanted the element of surprise and that I was not concerned with getting the room(s) ready ahead of time. Nor did I care for having a baby shower before the baby was actually born. She felt the same way even though later she was being pressured a bit from friends and family. But she held firm to the decision we had made. Long story short. I had from day one referred to the first pregnancy as a her. Every time I spoke to my wife or anybody for that matter, I always referred the baby as a girl. My wife would always respond with a reply of "How do you know and why are you so sure of yourself!?" All I can say is that is what I wanted first and that I was convinced within myself that it was a girl. So imagine my surprise when the doctor announced that it was a girl upon delivery!? Same thing with my son too. I referred to him as a boy from day one. My wife was convinced then that I couldn't be right a second time. But the best and scariest thing of all is that I was the one that delivered him in our house in the master bathroom on the floor. Yep, we didn't make it to the hospital and this one was coming quick. We were just so grateful that everything went well and by the book on his birth. What an experience that was!
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With my first kid, my wife wanted to wait but I didn't - well, you know who won that argument! I am really glad we waited, it was an awesome surprise and moment when our daughter arrived. (My wife was certain it was a boy). With #2 it was the opposite, I had so much fun finding out on the delivery day that I wanted to wait, but she had the "2nd kid, whatever" feeling...she also won that argument. So, we knew very early on that baby boy was on the way.
