I hear you. I've got 6yo twins, boy and a girl (one and done! hahaha). The sleep thing is completely up to RNGesus. You think not getting a gjallarhorn after doing a raid 20 times is frustrating? Try not getting more than 2 consecutive hours sleep for 2-3 weeks straight!! I don't know that is any remedy for the sleep thing. Perhaps tucker them out around 4-5pm (no later, as it seems to make them more awake), so that they sleep longer. Luckily, mine slept pretty well. My son - would sleep through an earthquake during a hurricane with a tornado outside. My daughter would wake up and cry, cry, cry - and he'd never so much as shift his position. If they wake up together, it's tough. But, if only one wakes, you have 3 choices: 1) If the other one is awoken by the first's crying, you HAVE to get the awake one immediately so that the other doesn't wake up. 2) If the other sleeps through it, you can choose to get up quickly to try and get him/her back to sleep before they or you "really" wake up (you know how if you're awake more than ~5 minutes, you really wake up? but if you can go to sleep again quickly, you fall asleep easily) 3) If the other sleeps through anything, let the awake one cry for a while. This teaches them that they need to sleep, and that crying in the middle of the night won't bring you running. Good luck, Dad!