Are we a clan in name only

Today I had some interesting things happen to me in relation to our clan. Let me tell you guys about it : 1. I tried to join ziar and inap's lobby to see what they were doing and while I was still joining I heard one of them say " he's in our clan and someone replied so idk" and kicked me. 2. Then later i'm playing (trials) with redneck (clan leader) and dudeblits and they leave me to join crazy- mess -up a friend who is already part of another clan godzz of the galaxy who's membership is at least 50 deep but I guess they wanted to play together instead of just saying so it was real awkward , so then redneck leaves and other 3 of us play card . We stop get new cards then blitz as host of our team joins redneck again at this point there are 4 of us in lobby and redneck says let's play crucible lowest score leaves lobby. At this point I guess I'm then suppose to battle for a lobby spot at that point I just left they obviously wanted to play together. I don't have a problem with that but why do I need to battle to play with my clan???? Doesn't belonging to a clan give you first choice in a lobby and non clans members need to leave??? Is this how our clan works and I have the etiquette wrong or what? Any of you guys who read this let me know what you think. I wonder what will be said because my story involves half our small clan.